For a long time now, I’ve considered doing some success coaching on the side. I’ve been blessed in my life to have been taught how to reach for my dreams and how to be organized. One thing I’ve noticed, however, is that most schools do not teach these techniques. I don’t know if I just went to an amazing school, had skilled teachers, or if education has truly changed that much.
After talking to my daughter, who is now a freshman in college, she agreed to be my guinea pig. I am refining my coaching and helping her at the same time. While I can tell you a few of the things I do to find success in publishing and other areas of my life, it is harder to break it down and explain how someone else should do it.
For one thing, we’re all different. What works great for me might not work well for my daughter. Fortunately, I also have a degree in education and I am a big believer in different learning styles. For example, you might be:
- A Visual Learner: You learn best by reading, watching a documentary, etc.
- An Auditory Learner: You learn best by listening to recordings or hearing a lecture.
- A Kinetic Learner: You learn best by doing something hands-on.
Honestly, most people are a mix of the three learning types, but lean most heavily toward one. Give me a book to read any day of the week and I can figure things out. Lecture at me and my brain shuts down.
Tips For Success
Here are some tried and true things that will help you out. I’ve used these tips with past students, business owners I’ve coached and my guinea pig daughter.
- Set a goal for each major area of your life. In the case of people I’ve coached who are starting their own businesses, I suggest that they set a big goal for their work life and personal life. For my daughter, I am having her set goals for school, her part-time job, and personal life.
- Start by looking ahead five years or more. Where do you see yourself at the other end of that? Write down that big goal. Maybe it is to make a certain amount of money, be debt free, or accomplish a goal such as getting published.
- Now, once you have that big goal, look at the top three things you need to do in order to accomplish that big goal.
- Finally, write down what you can do this week to start working toward that goal. My daughter wants to get her GPA to 4.0. To get there, she needs to study, ask for help when needed, pay attention to details. This week, she is going to meet with a teacher in a class she’s struggling in, complete some work that is due and meet with a study group. By looking at the big goals, it is easier to figure out what you need to do to get there.
- Write those goals out on a poster board and hang it where you will see it each and every day. You want to always keep your eye on those goals.
- Reward yourself as you reach smaller goals. Buy yourself a new shirt, go out for your favorite ice cream, buy a new computer program, invest in coaching or something to improve yourself.
- Buy a planner. Don’t try to wing it. This never, ever works. I was taught to use planners and to-do lists from a young age and I don’t go a day without using one. Not only will it help you remember important tasks, but you will get a sense of accomplishment as you check off items.
Success is something that is often hard to define. It is vital that you define what success means for you in business, personal life, and other areas that are important to you. With a goal in mind, you’re much more likely to succeed.